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4/28/2023

overprotective partners: what do i need to be aware of?

overprotective partners: AM I one or do i have one?

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If you constantly feel like you're never pleasing your partner and they are constantly accusing or doubting you, you may have an overprotective partner.

What is an overprotective partner?

An overprotective partner can be someone who tries to take control of your life and restrict you from your freedom.

When a person finds themselves in love with an overprotective partner, they can feel unhappy and suffocated in their relationship. If you find yourself in this situation and feel that it's impairing your relationship, you may want to address this early on so it doesn't affect your relationship long-term.

Here are a few ways to address your partner's overprotective behavior:

1. Having an honest conversation
Being honest with your partner about your concerns while also encouraging them to open up about their fears without being judgmental can help you understand your partner better.

2. Setting boundaries
Setting boundaries with your partner may be a good next step to prevent overprotective behavior. It's important to be assertive in your boundaries, and how you will address them should they not be respected.

3. Compromise is important
Make notes on what you're willing and unwilling to compromise on in a relationship. For example, telling your partner when you're hanging out with friends to keep them in the loop.

Healthy relationships can offer a sense of support, comfort, partnership, and many other benefits. That being said, they also require working collaboratively with your partner, and yourself in ways that can feel uncomfortable. Having an overprotective partner can often have the opposite effect on us, but it's important that we remind ourselves that we are in charge of our independence and are not obligated to do things we do not want to.


References: Kedia, S. (2022, September 22). Do you have an overprotective boyfriend? 40+ signs to identify. ThePleasantRelationship. Retrieved February 17, 2023, from https://thepleasantrelationship.com/overprotective-boyfriend/


Wright, L. (2021, February 22). Overprotective partner? here's what you can do. Marriage Advice - Expert Marriage Tips & Advice. Retrieved February 17, 2023, from https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/overprotective-partner/#:~:text=A%20person%20in%20love%20with,give%20up%20on%20the%20relationship.

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​ariana hernandez

Ariana is a student counselor working on her masters in mental health counseling at Sul Ross State University. Ariana will be finishing in Fall of 2023 and looking forward to seeing what she does next. Ariana is supervised by Aimee Rhodes, LPC-S

4/21/2023

signs of a healthy relationship

Healthy relationships play an important role in our overall life satisfaction. Social media and the portrayal of healthy relationships in movies and tv shows can create unrealistic expectations. So what makes a healthy relationship? While there's no such thing as a perfect relationship, there are some key characteristics that can create a strong foundation for a relationship.

1. Trust and vulnerability
Trust and vulnerability are both important when it comes to relationships. If your partner isn't being vulnerable with you, it can be difficult to trust they are being their authentic selves. When you don't trust your partner, it can be difficult to feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable. When there is vulnerability and trust in a relationship, it is easier to form a deeper connection with each other.

2. Communication
Clear communication is part of a healthy, long-lasting relationship. Conflicts are inevitable in all relationships, but learning how to communicate with your partner effectively to resolve differences of opinion is key to a fulfilling relationship.

3. Teamwork
In a healthy relationship, you need to be able to work with your partner in an effective and balanced way. Who picks up the kids from school? Who washes the dishes? Who cooks dinner every day? It's not about who's doing more, but being able to find resolutions that feel good to both parties that can make you feel like a better team.

4. Independence
When you share a life and love someone, you're not obligated to spend every moment with them. It's important in a healthy relationship to have friendships and interests outside of your partnership. This will allow you to grow as an individual and no be co-dependent.

5. Have fun
Last but not least, have fun! Couples who play, laugh, and have fun together have more satisfying relationships. Play helps build intimacy, and bonding, and allows couples to feel more confident in being their authentic self.

ariana hernandez

Ariana is a student counselor working on her masters in mental health counseling at Sul Ross State University. She enjoys working with teens and young adults addressing anxiety, depression and phase of life issues. Ariana is supervised by Aimee Rhodes, LPC-S

4/17/2023

Who does depression affect?

who does depression affect?

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Depression can affect not only the person who is diagnosed with it but also those who are a part of this person’s daily life. When someone is experiencing depression, they may have a difficult time engaging in daily activities, which can affect their relationships and interactions with others. Depression can have also a ripple effect on the mental health of those around the person with depression. Family members and friends may feel helpless or frustrated in their attempts to support their loved one with depression, leading to feelings of anxiety, stress, and even guilt.

Depression and how it affects your family
Depression can impact a person's ability to fulfill their roles and responsibilities within their family, such as parenting, providing emotional support, and contributing to household chores. This can cause strain and stress within the family dynamic, leading to feelings of frustration, resentment, and even guilt. Family members may feel helpless or frustrated in their attempts to support their loved one with depression, which can lead to further strain in the relationship. They may also feel like they are walking on eggshells or have to tiptoe around the person with depression, which can create tension and distance in the relationship.

Depression and how it affects friendships
Depression can have a significant impact on your relationships with friends. When someone is experiencing depression, they may withdraw from social interactions and have difficulty maintaining connections with their friends. Depression can also impact a person's ability to engage in social activities, which can make it difficult to participate in things like going out with friends or attending social gatherings. Friends may also struggle to understand what their friend with depression is going through, which can create tension or misunderstandings in the relationship. They may not know how to support their friend or feel helpless in their attempts to do so, which can also cause strain in the friendship.

If you know have any friends or family members that are dealing with depression, here are some suggestions to support them during this difficult time:
  1. Listen without judgment: Let your friend know that you are there for them and that you are willing to listen to them without judgment. Encourage them to share their feelings and thoughts and avoid offering unsolicited advice or trying to "fix" their problems.
  2. Offer practical support: Help your friend with tasks that may be difficult for them, such as running errands or doing chores. Offer to spend time with them doing things they enjoy, like going for a walk, watching a movie, or playing a game together. Sometimes, the little things can feel impossible for someone dealing with depression, and a helping hand can be a huge relief.
  3. Encourage self-care: Encourage your friend to engage in self-care activities like exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough sleep. Offer to help them find resources for therapy or other forms of treatment.
  4. Check-in regularly: Check in with your friend regularly to see how they are doing. Let them know that you are thinking of them and that you care about their well-being.
  5. Be patient and understanding: Understand that depression can be a long-term condition, and recovery may not happen overnight. Be patient and continue to offer support and encouragement to your friend.

It is important to remember that depression is a serious mental health condition that requires treatment and support. Seeking professional help can not only benefit the person with depression but can also help to improve the quality of life for those around them. You can also join a support group yourself to learn more about how to best support your friends or family members dealing with depression.

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Ariana is a student counselor studying at Sul Ross State University and working on her masters in mental health counseling. She is supervised by Aimee Rhodes, LPC-S

4/7/2023

How can depression affect your daily life

How Can Depression Affect Your Daily Life​ ​

Depression is a medical condition that negatively affects the way you feel, act, and think. Depression can have a significant impact on your daily life in many ways. Some common effects of depression can include: 
  1. Loss of interest in activities: Depression can cause you to lose interest in things you used to enjoy. This can include several things, such as hobbies, socializing, or even daily tasks like cooking or cleaning.
  2. Decreased energy and motivation: Depression can cause you to feel fatigued and lacking in energy, making it difficult to complete tasks or even get out of bed. This can often come with feelings of guilt, persistent sadness, and low mood.
  3. Difficulty sleeping or oversleeping: Depression can disrupt your sleep patterns, leading to insomnia or oversleeping. Both oversleeping and insomnia can have negative effects on our mental health. Oversleeping can cause feelings of fatigue, making it difficult to complete tasks. This can also disrupt our body’s natural sleep-wake cycle, making it more difficult to fall asleep at night. Insomnia can also lead to feelings of frustration, and sleepiness during the day, which can contribute to feelings of depression.
  4. Appetite changes: Appetite changes are a common symptom of depression, and can manifest in different ways for different people. This often results in overeating or undereating. For example, depression can cause changes in the levels of certain hormones, which can lead to the craving for certain types of food.
  5. Difficulty concentrating: While this is a common symptom of depression, it can feel incredibly frustrating. Difficulty concentrating can be caused by a lack of interest in activities, feelings of fatigue, and low mood. Depression can make it difficult to concentrate or make decisions, leading to problems at work or in school. This can lead to feelings of frustration, anxiety, and self-doubt.
  6. Feelings of worthlessness or guilt: When you’re faced with symptoms of depression, it can feel like a blow to your self-esteem. Depression can cause you to feel inadequate or worthless, leading to feelings of guilt and self-doubt. Negative thoughts and beliefs about oneself can become reinforced by symptoms of depression, creating a vicious cycle of negative self-talk and low mood.
  7. Social withdrawal: Depression can make it difficult to interact with others, leading to isolation and loneliness, which can further exacerbate symptoms of depression. Depression can also affect the way people perceive social interactions, leading them to perceive social situations more negatively. Social anxiety is often a common co-occurring condition with depression, which further contributes to social withdrawal.
  8. Physical symptoms: Depression is more than a physical symptom and can also have physical symptoms. People diagnosed with depression can experience physical symptoms such as headaches, backaches, or other types of body pain. Depression can also cause gastrointestinal symptoms such as stomach pain, bloating, and constipation.
  9. Lastly, depression can affect sexual desire and performance, leading to a decreased sex drive. It’s also important to note that physical symptoms may be caused by other underlying medical conditions, so it’s important to check in with your doctor to rule out any other potential causes.

When dealing with depression, it’s important to show ourselves grace. As we’ve discussed earlier, depression can lead to disruptions in sleep, appetite, and impact our quality of life.This further exacerbates feelings of fatigue and lethargy, which can make it harder to muster the energy to engage in activities or complete tasks.

It's important to seek help if you are experiencing symptoms of depression, as depression is a treatable condition with various treatment options available. There are a variety of treatment options, such as therapy, medication, and overall lifestyle changes that can help improve your overall mental health.

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Ariana Hernandez is a student counselor under the supervision of Aimee Rhodes, LPC-S. Ariana works with a variety of individuals providing a warm inviting environment for therapy.

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    Elizabeth Oldham is an LPC-S and co-founder of Transform & Renew, PLLC.  She specializes in co-dependency, anxiety and OCD, depression and mood disorders. 

    Aimee Rhodes,  Doctorate in Education, Global Training and Development and LPC-S is a cofounder of Transform & Renew, PLLC. She specializes in mood disorders, relationship trauma and grief. 
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    Ariana Hernandez, student counselor at Sul Ross State University is supervised by Aimee Rhodes, LPC-S. Ariana enjoys working with teens and adults facing life adjustment, depression, anxiety and other mood related issues.

    Staci is supervised by Elizabeth Oldham, LPC-S. Staci is an Associate who is a parent, a writer, compassionate counselor who enjoys working with adults in all phases of life but has a deep passion for older adults facing life's challenges in the second half of life.

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